If you are a single parent or have a deadbeat spouse or need to work two jobs on your own or have special needs children, yeah, that's a whole other ball of wax. But what I'm trying to say is, this standard narrative that "having children is the death of side projects", without any other qualifier, is a woefully tired story that is really nothing but projecting one's own inability to be disciplined in their work on one's children, the people with the least agency in their lives.