It's funny, because when it came to women's suffrage and the later waves of feminism, people would write the exact same thing you did when referring to the patriarchy - willfully misunderstanding, or not even bothering to understand what was being talked about, to ridicule it as "too nebulous" to deal with, or some sort of conspiracy that people were deliberately participating to, in an attempt to dismiss it out of hand as an "attack" - and someone commented as much in this same thread.