You remind me of a time my youngest son was coaching me on Master of Magic. He told me to go into the town with a particular unit "...and wreck his shit".
That's a gamer attitude: Wreck his shit. If you aren't comfortable with it, then you are likely to have trouble with a gamer social environment.
Rather than proceeding to stare at the screen until somebody takes away your keyboard and plays for you.
If you want to be perceived as a gamer, you can get away with not looking the look -- but you've got to show up ready to play.