Lmao you're an IT guy, right? Get yourself a Raspberry Pi 5, PCIe adapter and a second hand gigabit Intel NIC. Slap a case on that, put OpenWRT on it and bam! High performance, high quality router built from trustworthy parts running open source operating system. Not the prettiest and simplest solution but at least that way you don't have to depend on Realtek chips and Chinese firmware.
There is an entire WORLD that lives in your computer below the operating system (eg, OpenWRT). For example, in your Raspberry Pi 5, there is a chip called the VideoCore GPU and it contains a big blob of code known only to Raspberry Pi Foundation and, perhaps, Five Eyes. The Chinese processors are like that too!
I get your point but once you start looking at tech this way you will come to a conclusion that nothing's safe. With RPi you at least know that millions of units have been deployed in companies where monitoring is so strict and stakes so high nothing fishy would go unnoticed. Also there is a reputation of the manufacturer and people in charge being at stake. With no name Chinese hardware you can't really expect firmware updates and if anything fishy gets discovered by someone they'll just change their brand name from King Dong to Dong Xiang and keep selling.